Sometimes we carry a sense of entitlement that makes us believe that other people owe us,that they are somehow responsible for our happiness. If we are sad, they need to give us their support. If we are lonely, they should keep us company. If we are in relationship,our mates are supposed to protect us from pain. They should be sorry when we are mad and attentive when we are sad. They should promise that no matter what happens, they would never hurt us. These are impossible expectations.
You can't make rules in relationships to ensure that you never get hurt. You can't leave it up to someone else to make sure that you are happy. If you do, you will end up feeling disappointed and sometimes even brokenhearted. But you can take responsibility for your own happiness.You can be sure that you don't always end up in the position of the victim. You do this by acknowledging whose job it is to take care of you. When you find yourself unhappy , try to figure out what you can change them.
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